Over the Net
Reconceptualize the win as when you complete your part of something, not when someone else does their part or validates your part. In other words, the win is when you send the ball over the net.
For example, the win is “I pitched an article to a magazine,” not “they accepted it.” (Of course, “they accepted it” is also a win, but it’s a second, separate win after the first win of pitching it.)
In your Project Quartz journal, identify at least one recent win that you can celebrate having gotten “over the net.”
Source
How to Be Everything: A Guide for Those Who (Still) Don't Know What They Want to Be When They Grow Up (2018) by Emilie Wapnick